A man had been with his wife since college. They married shortly after graduating and had the time of their lives as a childless couple.
When they first got together, the woman clarified early on that she didn’t plan to have children. Initially, it disappointed the man, but he didn’t think much about it.
A young couple wed shortly after graduating from college. | Source: Pexels
Things were perfect for them in the early years of their marriage. They were in love, and despite the man’s demanding work schedule, they made things work and spent much time together.
One day, the woman discovered that her birth control failed. The man supported her, assuring her he’d support her choice. Initially, the woman planned to abort the child. A day before the appointment, however, she changed her mind.
They ended up keeping their baby. | Source: Pexels2
A Sudden Change of Mind
In the first few years, they were loving parents to a sweet daughter. Two years later, the man’s wife decided she wanted another child. The man thinks of his children as “absolutely perfect.” They were both well-behaved and, to him, ahead of their age.
The couple had two daughters. | Source: Pexels
At one stretch in time, the man felt something was going on with his wife. While he acknowledged she’d always been their daughters’ primary caretaker, she’d been hands-off whenever the man was home.
The devoted dad didn’t mind spending the extra time with his daughters, but he realized that his wife ignored them every chance. She’d retreat to their bedroom and lock the door behind her.
The man noticed a change in his wife. | Source: Pexels
For a while, the woman insisted she was okay. However, she finally told her husband her deepest, darkest desire one night.
After putting the kids to sleep, the woman sat her husband down so they could talk. She began reminiscing about their time as a young couple and how much fun they used to have.
The couple spoke after their kids fell asleep. | Source: Pexels
Initially, the woman was being sweet and funny. The man let his guard down and thought it was harmful reminiscing. Then, the woman said something that completely caught him off-guard:
“Back before we had the girls, we could do anything we wanted. I wish we could go back to that.”
The man asked his wife what she meant by that statement. After some nudging, she finally admitted that she regretted having children.
The woman began reminiscing. | Source: Pexels
The Woman Admitted Something Unbelievable
The man thought his wife was going through something. He said that while he sometimes felt overwhelmed, he’d always love his daughters.
The woman mumbled something, and when the man asked her to repeat it, she yelled: “I DON’T LOVE THEM!”
The woman admitted she didn’t love her children. | Source: Pexels
The man was stunned. He waited for his wife to stop crying, and when she finally composed herself, she started talking again.
“I sat there with my mouth hanging open. She was saying how she had been looking into adoption agencies and foster care. She had contacted one agency already. She was making plans to give away my CHILDREN,” the man revealed in disbelief.
The woman wanted to give her children up for adoption. | Source: Pexels
He listened to his wife talk about how great of a time they’d have once the children were out of the picture. She said they could have their lives back and experience everything they used to as a childless couple.
The man didn’t know what to do. However, when she was asleep, the man packed his bags, got his children, and drove to his mother’s house.
The man decided to take his kids out of the house. | Source: Pexels
He called in sick from work for a week. When his wife woke up, she left him several missed calls, texts, and voicemails. Admittedly, the man didn’t look at them right away. Instead, he spoke to his mom about what he should do.
His mom also didn’t know what to do. The man, thinking proactively, knew he needed to speak to lawyers and mental health professionals.
The man believes his wife needs help. | Source: Pexels
A part of him thinks his wife had a psychotic delusion, and she wasn’t just that awful of a person to give away her children. What the situation made clear, however, was that the man didn’t want to go back home to his wife – ever.
While divorce was his top choice, he acknowledged that he couldn’t raise his children alone. “I’m not sure I want to continue a relationship with someone who considers giving away her kids before even asking for help,” he admitted.
People on the internet felt terrible for the dad, who suddenly had to accept that his wife was an entirely different person than the person he once married. They agreed that his wife needed help, but it didn’t justify her going behind his back to talk to adoption agencies.
The man wants to file for divorce. | Source: Pexels
“YOUR WIFE HAD BEEN CONTACTING ADOPTION AGENCIES WITHOUT YOU!!!! That is nuts! Totally nuts! Your reaction is completely understandable,” one said.
“Yes, she needs help. But also, yes, he did the RIGHT THING in packing the kids up and taking them to his mother’s. The children come FIRST AND FOREMOST,” another echoed.
Do you think the man did the right thing? What would you have done in his situation?
