A woman faced a dilemma with a family heirloom, an emerald necklace traditionally passed down to the eldest child.

Her husband wanted it for his daughter from a previous marriage, leading to a Reddit plea for advice.

The woman, married to Joey for two years, had a family tradition of gifting the heirloom on the child’s 14th birthday. Her daughter, Emily, was to receive it.

Joey suggested giving it to his daughter, Sophia, to symbolize acceptance in their new family.  Emily objected, emphasizing the family tradition.

Joey accused her of favoritism and involved his family. Reddit users supported the woman, criticizing Joey’s stance and hypocrisy. They believed Emily should receive the heirloom.

This dispute strained their marriage, highlighting the challenges of blending families with different traditions. Reddit users felt her reasons were justified, supporting her decision to give the necklace to Emily.

You’re not favoring one kid over another. Emily is your kid and the necklace is hers. Your SD is not entitled to anything. I would have told him that his daughter can get the knockoff from Amazon if it’s that important to him.

That being said, you need to put the necklace in à safe place like a box in the bank or something because trust me, as soon as Emily has it, it’s going to “disappear” or be broken by “accident”.

You need to go and talk to a divorce attorney to prépare for à divorce in case things go south real quick once your husband and his kid realize that your daughter really getting the necklace.
NTA.

The “favouring your child over mine” argument is pinnacle hypocrisy too. Because isn’t he favouring his child over hers be starting up this argument?

Is he going to give OP’s daughter a family heirloom of similar value and sentiment from his family to “fully accept her”? Didn’t think so.

These are some true colours he’s showing.