A Reddit user asked others if he and his wife were in the wrong for asking his mother to change her hairstyle or leave their wedding. Other users told him he should think carefully about his wife’s actions.

The original poster (OP) explained that he and his wife had recently exchanged vows and that his wife had been under a lot of stress leading up to their big day because she wanted everything to go perfectly.

However, when his mother arrived at their wedding, OP’s bride told him she was unhappy about how his mother’s hair had turned out. She told him to give his mother two options.

How Did OP’s Mother’s Hair Look?

OP explained that his wife had approached him on their wedding day and told him she was unhappy with his mother’s hair. He said her hair was styled in a half-up, half-down ponytail, with pearls around the ponytail and cascading down her hair.

The bride felt that her mother-in-law’s hairstyle was “inappropriate” because she thought pearls were a traditional bridal thing. OP admitted that he knew little about hair but stood by his bride. He revealed:

“We confronted my mom and asked her to take it out.”

OP’s mother refused to remove her pearls and said his wife was narcissistic. To this, his wife became very emotional, and he asked her what she wanted to do about the situation. The bride said she wanted her mother-in-law to change her hairstyle or leave the wedding.

Following his bride’s lead, OP presented his mother with these two options, to which his mother replied that it was a waste to take her hair down after only an hour of wearing it, so she and her husband would just have to leave.

OP’s mother felt she would rather have dinner with her husband somewhere lovely than stay at her son’s wedding, where her new daughter-in-law was causing a scene about her hairstyle.

The mother left the wedding while she muttered about her son and her new daughter-in-law. Meanwhile, many people at the wedding told OP and his new bride that they were in the wrong for excluding his mother over something so miniscule.

Although many people disagreed with what OP and his wife had done, he said his wife strongly believed that his mother had purposely put pearls in her hair to upset her on her big day.

What Did People Say?

OP’s post was to find out if others felt as strongly as his own family that what he and his wife had done was wrong. He soon discovered that there was a unanimous opinion that he was wrong.

One person said that the OP’s wife seemed determined to isolate him from his family and that she had behaved like a monster. The commenter advised OP to consider all the relationships his wife had ruined for him before warning:

“If you’re not careful, it’s just going to end up being you and her, and she’ll turn all that hate on you.”

Another person said that OP and his bride were in the wrong because his mother’s hair would not even be noticeable in pictures. The commenter said if his mother had also been wearing a white dress, it would have been a problem, but it seemed like her hair looked great, and the bride was jealous.

The same commenter said that pearls are not only bridal but also the birthstone for June and are worn by many because of how beautiful they are. Another user asked if OP’s bride had checked everyone’s hair to see if it was suitable.

This commenter said it seemed OP’s wife did not like his mother and was looking for something she could hold over her mother-in-law before adding that nobody would have focused on his mother’s hair. The commenter hoped making OP’s “unreasonable wife” happy was reason enough to ruin his relationship with his mother.